The words we use to communicate an idea or share a suggestion are crucial. Rachel Stafford offers some great examples.
The thought of my child growing up with a parent whose love was based on what she did rather than who she was caused an immediate change in me. I stopped being her rigid taskmaster, and, instead, became her loving encourager... Rachel Stafford
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Showing posts with label praise. Show all posts
Showing posts with label praise. Show all posts
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
Thursday, June 11, 2015
SUMMER CONTRACT
Summer vacation is upon us! Having a 'contract' with your Teens and Tweens is a great idea so that expectations are clear.
"Summer will be here before you know it and the one thing we have learned
over the years is that a summer contract is a game changer.
Kids need to know what is expected of them. Rules need to be signed off
on so that you don’t have to argue all summer. Put this summer contract
in place and if arguments arise refer to it. Make sure you offer tons of
positive reinforcement when they are getting it right!!"
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"Summer will be here before you know it and the one thing we have learned
over the years is that a summer contract is a game changer.
Kids need to know what is expected of them. Rules need to be signed off
on so that you don’t have to argue all summer. Put this summer contract
in place and if arguments arise refer to it. Make sure you offer tons of
positive reinforcement when they are getting it right!!"For an example
Click Here
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Wednesday, June 3, 2015
CREATE CONFIDENCE
More on the significance of self resiliency, confidence and self esteem! Read the article:
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Wednesday, March 25, 2015
REJECTION
Continuing the series on the college process - Frank Bruni hits the nail on the head.
"HERE we go again. At Harvard, Emory, Bucknell and other schools around the country, there have been record numbers of applicants yearning for an elite degree. They’ll get word in the next few weeks. Most will be turned down."
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"HERE we go again. At Harvard, Emory, Bucknell and other schools around the country, there have been record numbers of applicants yearning for an elite degree. They’ll get word in the next few weeks. Most will be turned down."
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Wednesday, December 3, 2014
PRAISE & ENCOURAGEMENT
To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.
Kids and teens are often dismissive of praise from their parents. I am
sure that parents out there can relate to this, as we have been all been
told at one time or another by one or several of our kids, "stop it
mom" or even, "you're just saying that because you are my parent and you
have to say that." I can assure you, though, that they are listening.
They will probably not thank you for this praise until they are in their
twenties, but don't let that stop you from praising them during their
childhood and teen years. Just be careful how you praise them. A little
praise may go a long way -- especially if it is the right kind of
praise.
Barbara Greenberg
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Kids and teens are often dismissive of praise from their parents. I am
sure that parents out there can relate to this, as we have been all been
told at one time or another by one or several of our kids, "stop it
mom" or even, "you're just saying that because you are my parent and you
have to say that." I can assure you, though, that they are listening.
They will probably not thank you for this praise until they are in their
twenties, but don't let that stop you from praising them during their
childhood and teen years. Just be careful how you praise them. A little
praise may go a long way -- especially if it is the right kind of
praise. Barbara Greenberg
For the full article click here
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
CONFERENCE TIME
5 tips for a better parent-teacher conference
For many parents and teachers, it’s the first opportunity of the school
year to sit down face to face and discuss everything from curriculum to
issues that arise in the classroom. Here are some tips from both sides
of the desk on how to make the most of a parent-teacher conference.Do Your Homework
Join Forces
Open Lines of Communication
Aim for Action
Keep in Touch
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Tuesday, July 8, 2014
PRAISE & ENCOURAGEMENT
How we praise and encourage our kids has a direct impact on their self esteem. In Chapter 9 in The Tool Box: The Glue, Self Esteem and self Confidence, we talk about praise.To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-greenberg/how-to-praise-your-kids_b_2862815.html?utm_hp_ref=parents-teens
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
PRAISE vs ENCOURAGEMENT
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Everyone
knows positive messages are important, especially for young people.
Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s
sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not
as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings
to your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t
always as obvious as you might think - See more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone
knows positive messages are important, especially for young people.
Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s
sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not
as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings
to your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t
always as obvious as you might think - See more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone
knows positive messages are important, especially for young people.
Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s
sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not
as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings
to your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t
always as obvious as you might think - See more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Isn’t
encouragement just another word for praise? Unfortunately many parents
think the words are interchangeable and believe they are encouraging
their teen by given them praise. This is unfortunate because in many
cases praise will have a discouraging impact on a young person - See
more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone
knows positive messages are important, especially for young people.
Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s
sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not
as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings
to your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t
always as obvious as you might think. - See more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone
knows positive messages are important, especially for young people.
Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s
sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not
as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings
to your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t
always as obvious as you might think. - See more at:
http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
ARE PUNISHMENTS AND CONSEQUENCES DIFFERENT?
Are Punishments and Consequences Different? YES!
"Cause and effect are fundamentally different from a child doing
something, and the parent (or school) giving them a "consequence."
That's not a consequence at all, but a punishment. The result of this is
that our children don't learn a valuable lesson. Instead, the result is
that they resent us. And resentment leads to further acting out on the
child's part."
To Read full article click here
"Cause and effect are fundamentally different from a child doing
something, and the parent (or school) giving them a "consequence."
That's not a consequence at all, but a punishment. The result of this is
that our children don't learn a valuable lesson. Instead, the result is
that they resent us. And resentment leads to further acting out on the
child's part." To Read full article click here
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
ENCORAGEMENT vs PRAISE
Understanding the difference is key, how and when we use them is very important.
Maren writes "With encouragement we offer the idea that mistakes are simply learning opportunities, and that to learn and grow, we all have to make mistakes. With encouragement we respect the child’s abilities, efforts and integrity to try to do the right thing. An encouraging phrase or two: I know you can figure this out. You’re good at solving problems; I’m sure you’ll figure it out. "
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Maren writes "With encouragement we offer the idea that mistakes are simply learning opportunities, and that to learn and grow, we all have to make mistakes. With encouragement we respect the child’s abilities, efforts and integrity to try to do the right thing. An encouraging phrase or two: I know you can figure this out. You’re good at solving problems; I’m sure you’ll figure it out. "
Check out the full article Click Here
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Praising Kids & Teens
To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.
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