Showing posts with label praise. Show all posts
Showing posts with label praise. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

BUILD or BREAK?

The words we use to communicate an idea or share a suggestion are crucial.  Rachel Stafford offers some great examples.



The thought of my child growing up with a parent whose love was based on what she did rather than who she was caused an immediate change in me. I stopped being her rigid taskmaster, and, instead, became her loving encourager... Rachel Stafford



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Thursday, June 11, 2015

SUMMER CONTRACT

Summer vacation is upon us!  Having a 'contract' with your Teens and Tweens is a great idea so that expectations are clear. 

"Summer will be here before you know it and the one thing we have learned over the years is that a summer contract is a game changer. Kids need to know what is expected of them. Rules need to be signed off on so that you don’t have to argue all summer. Put this summer contract in place and if arguments arise refer to it. Make sure you offer tons of positive reinforcement when they are getting it right!!"



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Wednesday, March 25, 2015

REJECTION

Continuing the series on the college process - Frank Bruni hits the nail on the head.


 "HERE we go again. At Harvard, Emory, Bucknell and other schools around the country, there have been record numbers of applicants yearning for an elite degree. They’ll get word in the next few weeks. Most will be turned down."


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Wednesday, December 3, 2014

PRAISE & ENCOURAGEMENT

To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.


Kids and teens are often dismissive of praise from their parents. I am sure that parents out there can relate to this, as we have been all been told at one time or another by one or several of our kids, "stop it mom" or even, "you're just saying that because you are my parent and you have to say that." I can assure you, though, that they are listening. They will probably not thank you for this praise until they are in their twenties, but don't let that stop you from praising them during their childhood and teen years. Just be careful how you praise them. A little praise may go a long way -- especially if it is the right kind of praise.  
Barbara Greenberg 


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Tuesday, October 14, 2014

CONFERENCE TIME



5 tips for a better parent-teacher conference

For many parents and teachers, it’s the first opportunity of the school year to sit down face to face and discuss everything from curriculum to issues that arise in the classroom.  Here are some tips from both sides of the desk on how to make the most of a parent-teacher conference.

Do Your Homework
Join Forces
Open Lines of Communication
Aim for Action
Keep in Touch

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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

PRAISE & ENCOURAGEMENT

How we praise and encourage our kids has a direct impact on their self esteem. In Chapter 9 in The Tool Box: The Glue, Self Esteem and self Confidence, we talk about praise.

To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-greenberg/how-to-praise-your-kids_b_2862815.html?utm_hp_ref=parents-teens

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

PRAISE vs ENCOURAGEMENT

The difference between praise and encouragement is profound.  Understanding the difference has  significant impact on building our kids' self esteem.  This article from the Blog : Understanding Teenagers explains this with clarity.

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Everyone knows positive messages are important, especially for young people. Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings to  your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t always as obvious as you might think - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone knows positive messages are important, especially for young people. Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings to  your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t always as obvious as you might think - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf
Everyone knows positive messages are important, especially for young people. Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings to  your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t always as obvious as you might think - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf

Isn’t encouragement just another word for praise?  Unfortunately many parents think the words are interchangeable and believe they are encouraging their teen by given them praise. This is unfortunate because in many cases praise will have a discouraging impact on a young person - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf


Everyone knows positive messages are important, especially for young people. Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings to  your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t always as obvious as you might think. - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf



Everyone knows positive messages are important, especially for young people. Clear, well timed messages of affirmation are vital for a young person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. But some positive messages are not as effective as others. Being able to translate your positive feelings to  your teenager in a manner that will make a lasting difference isn’t always as obvious as you might think. - See more at: http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/2012/08/what-every-teenager-needs-encouragement/#sthash.pxgEdxUT.dpuf


Tuesday, April 8, 2014

ARE PUNISHMENTS AND CONSEQUENCES DIFFERENT?

Are Punishments and Consequences Different?  YES!


"Cause and effect are fundamentally different from a child doing something, and the parent (or school) giving them a "consequence." That's not a consequence at all, but a punishment. The result of this is that our children don't learn a valuable lesson. Instead, the result is that they resent us. And resentment leads to further acting out on the child's part."

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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

ENCORAGEMENT vs PRAISE

Understanding the difference is key, how and when we use them is very important.



Maren writes  "With encouragement we offer the idea that mistakes are simply learning opportunities, and that to learn and grow, we all have to make mistakes.  With encouragement we respect the child’s abilities, efforts and integrity to try to do the right thing.  An encouraging phrase or two:  I know you can figure this out.  You’re good at solving problems; I’m sure you’ll figure it out. "




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Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Praising Kids & Teens

How we praise and encourage our kids has a direct impact on their self esteem.  In Chapter 9 in The Tool Box: The Glue, Self Esteem and self Confidence, we talk about praise.

To be meaningful praise needs to be real, we are striving to have our teens be independent, self aware and achieving people who understand what it takes to accomplish a task or project.


Click here for article