Beyond Helpful October 7, 2013
Although my children are not teenagers, they are 8 and 6. I think if I start using these tools now, the teenage years might be a bit easier! I know that children do not come with manuals and The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers, does not claim to be a manual. I do fully believe that it is the closest thing you will get to one!
The real life examples make "The Tool Box" easy to understand and apply. I would say that the following phrase applies to anyone being grumpy! HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
Give this book a try. You won't be disappointed! by K. Reading
Great Tool October 6, 2013
This is a great book for parents who are dealing with the teenage angst problem. Give it as a gift to someone you know whose child id just getting to that stage like I did. Get clear sound advice on how to deal with specific scenarios and ones that can be used ad infinitum. H.A.L.T is an acronym I first learned about in an AA meeting and never thought I would see it applied to child rearing but it actually makes sense. Just as when they are newborns, a baby will only cry if they are hungry, angry, lonely or tired(if they are not sick or wet) and if you apply this to older children acting out you will find that these fit them more times than not.
Children do not come out with a manual or a "How To" booklet. The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers by Karen J Garrity is as close as you will come to it. You will learn the tools you need to develop effective strategies in communicating with the surly teen, how to identify the real issues and how to navigate conflicts. Dealing with teens effectively means that you need to know what true compromise is and how to pick your battles. As a parent of adult children I wish they had this book back in the day. That is why I bought a copy for my son and daughter to use with their brood since both have tweens right now. by Anita Simmons
Insight October 3, 2013
Karren Garrity's "The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers" offers a powerful insight into the world of teenagers and how to relate to them as parents. I was generally impressed by the tips and words of wisdom offered in the book. I would suggest that this book is not only for parents but for the more mature teenager who wants to understand herself or himself. This is a well-structured guide to becoming a more educated parent for your teenager, and I highly recommend it. by D. O'Keefe
Got kids? September 29th
How about teens? Check this book out today! If you are a parent, then you are familiar with the stresses of raising a teen or teens. This book will help you guide you through specific scenarios and offer sound advice plus clear, practical strategies. Tool Box has a pretty nice focus on criteria backed by some therapists I've had in the past, so I was able to identify easily. Hopefully if you buy and and read this, you will see positive results and a happier family unit! by S.V. Seebaran
Great help!,March 21, 2013
Although my children are not teenagers, they are 8 and 6. I think if I start using these tools now, the teenage years might be a bit easier! I know that children do not come with manuals and The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers, does not claim to be a manual. I do fully believe that it is the closest thing you will get to one!
The real life examples make "The Tool Box" easy to understand and apply. I would say that the following phrase applies to anyone being grumpy! HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
Give this book a try. You won't be disappointed! by K. Reading
Great Tool October 6, 2013
This is a great book for parents who are dealing with the teenage angst problem. Give it as a gift to someone you know whose child id just getting to that stage like I did. Get clear sound advice on how to deal with specific scenarios and ones that can be used ad infinitum. H.A.L.T is an acronym I first learned about in an AA meeting and never thought I would see it applied to child rearing but it actually makes sense. Just as when they are newborns, a baby will only cry if they are hungry, angry, lonely or tired(if they are not sick or wet) and if you apply this to older children acting out you will find that these fit them more times than not.
Children do not come out with a manual or a "How To" booklet. The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers by Karen J Garrity is as close as you will come to it. You will learn the tools you need to develop effective strategies in communicating with the surly teen, how to identify the real issues and how to navigate conflicts. Dealing with teens effectively means that you need to know what true compromise is and how to pick your battles. As a parent of adult children I wish they had this book back in the day. That is why I bought a copy for my son and daughter to use with their brood since both have tweens right now. by Anita Simmons
Insight October 3, 2013
Karren Garrity's "The Tool Box, Tricks of the Trade for Raising Teenagers" offers a powerful insight into the world of teenagers and how to relate to them as parents. I was generally impressed by the tips and words of wisdom offered in the book. I would suggest that this book is not only for parents but for the more mature teenager who wants to understand herself or himself. This is a well-structured guide to becoming a more educated parent for your teenager, and I highly recommend it. by D. O'Keefe
Got kids? September 29th
How about teens? Check this book out today! If you are a parent, then you are familiar with the stresses of raising a teen or teens. This book will help you guide you through specific scenarios and offer sound advice plus clear, practical strategies. Tool Box has a pretty nice focus on criteria backed by some therapists I've had in the past, so I was able to identify easily. Hopefully if you buy and and read this, you will see positive results and a happier family unit! by S.V. Seebaran
Great help!,
This book is amazing! Sensible solutions to real problems with kids and
teenagers, applicable to the world we live in. This book isn't just
about teenagers, it helps deal with younger kids just trying to grow up
and cope with the world. I would definitely recommend this book to
every parent! by Mom of 5 and counting
I bought this book as my grandchild is entering the
teenage years and it sounded like it would be helpful for the upcoming
years. It is written very well and it has given me many suggestions
that will help my relationship with my grandchild. I plan to share it
with my husband and my daughter. Highly recommend it to other
grandparents and parents!! by Grandma
H.A.L.T. spells understanding,
Whenever our little ones are crashing my wife and I H.A.L.T. and walk
right into an answer. If our kids are inexplicably cranky, they are
always either:
Hungry
Angry
Lonely or
Tired.
Garrity has given us a quick key here, but her book is filled with ways to unlock how a kid is feeling. I've check out lots of parenting books, like Why do they act the way the do, and I've found the toolbox to be more accessible on the go, when I really need it. Some parenting books are hard to read in that they are just so sad and the examples seem so extreme. This book is grounded in reality and easy to read. Highly recommended for all families.
Hungry
Angry
Lonely or
Tired.
Garrity has given us a quick key here, but her book is filled with ways to unlock how a kid is feeling. I've check out lots of parenting books, like Why do they act the way the do, and I've found the toolbox to be more accessible on the go, when I really need it. Some parenting books are hard to read in that they are just so sad and the examples seem so extreme. This book is grounded in reality and easy to read. Highly recommended for all families.
By JoshuaHess
Love the Tools, April 1, 2013
I thought this book was an incredibly helpful "tool" for my me and for
my son. It doesn't suggest solutions that sound manipulative or
"one-size-fits-all' in terms of parenting. I also love the fact that
nothing here sounds high minded and using the names of real tools brings
the messages right down to earth.
I guess that's what I like best...not feeling like Ms. Garrity is some authority (which I believe she actually is) but rather someone who has been there and is simply sharing clear and simple 'tools' that help parents work through things in a practical way....even though I sometimes feel like it might take a wrench or a hammer to get a message through to my son :)) The book is VERY approachable and useable! By Strong Girl
I guess that's what I like best...not feeling like Ms. Garrity is some authority (which I believe she actually is) but rather someone who has been there and is simply sharing clear and simple 'tools' that help parents work through things in a practical way....even though I sometimes feel like it might take a wrench or a hammer to get a message through to my son :)) The book is VERY approachable and useable! By Strong Girl
The Tool Box is an essential and elegant book about communication. The
chapters are full of real life examples and situations that will ring
true to everyone. The author has written an easy to use guide which can
be used in the home, in school and everywhere adults interact with
preteen and teenagers. The 'tools' analogy really makes sense as do all
of the author's ideas and suggestions for navigating your relationship
with children/young adults.
By C.M. Mazza
Sage Words, March 30, 2013
My brother recommended this book to me and his kids aren't even teenagers yet. The book is full of fresh ways to look at continuing
problems, helpful. I particularly like her methods for creating
communication. I'd offer my copy for sale but I keep refering back to it for her words. Buy you own! By Daniel Bain
I loved this book, and have recommended it to several friends and
parents of teens (and even "tweens" like my twin girls). The underlying
metaphor is that better parenting is something that is made easier by
discovering and learning to use a collection of simple and effective
"tools". You dont need a degree is family counseling (though it sure
seems to have helped the author :) to reframe some simple ideas into
practical and effective tools (e.g: "HALT" and "ABCDs") to use when
coping with your teens and helping your teens cope with life.
By Seth Bain
Real Advice, April 14, 2013
This book is practical and useful and easy to read. It felt like I was
having a conversation with a friend. I highly recommend this
easy-to-follow guide to parenting, teaching, and/or mentoring a teen. By Tasha Goodwin
So my kid comes home today with less than stellar grades, and Im thinking my way through the tool box for appropriate countermeasures....Time for the Teen Comandments!
ReplyDeleteThis is an opportunity to talk about grades and what they mean to your son (and you). For many kids they do not see how the grades are connected to the bigger picture; it just doesn't seem relevant to them. Or, he may be as frustrated with the grades as you are and hides behind an air of 'whatever'. Try using the ABC's in chapter 6: 3-in-1 Oil, The art of problem solving and compromise. The goal is to get your son to be a part of creating the solution.
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