Yelling is a guttural response and it rarely helps us achieve our goal of communication and change. Whether our child is 6 and has spilled her cereal or is 16 and broken her phone - if we can resist the urge to scream we might just find a valuable teaching moment.
So here's to New Year's resolution:
In the midst of my highly distracted life, I started a new practice
that was quite different from the way I behaved up until that point. I
became a yeller. It wasn’t often, but it was extreme—like an overloaded
balloon that suddenly pops and makes everyone in earshot startle with
fear.
So what was it about my then 3-year-old and 6-year-old children that
caused me to lose it? Was it how she insisted on running off to get
three more beaded necklaces and her favorite pink sunglasses when we
were already late? Was it that she tried to pour her own cereal and
dumped the entire box on the kitchen counter? Was it that she dropped
and shattered my special glass angel on the hardwood floor after being
told not to touch it? Was it that she fought sleep like a prizefighter
when I needed peace and quiet the most? Was it that the two of them
fought over ridiculous things like who would be first out of the car or
who got the biggest dip of ice cream?
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"Cause and effect are fundamentally different from a child doing
something, and the parent (or school) giving them a "consequence."
That's not a consequence at all, but a punishment. The result of this is
that our children don't learn a valuable lesson. Instead, the result is
that they resent us. And resentment leads to further acting out on the
child's part." 
