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Wednesday, March 30, 2016
TEENS & CONSEQUENCES
An intelligent and helpful approach from Megan Devine
If you’re having trouble giving effective consequences to your teen, know that you are not alone. Many parents tell me that nothing seems to work, and that coming up with the right thing for their child can seem like an impossible task. If you’re the parent of an adolescent, you may have grounded your child, taken away their video games, or suspended their driving privileges for months on end. But as James Lehman says, you can’t punish kids into acceptable behavior—it just doesn’t work that way.
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Wednesday, March 9, 2016
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
CONSEQUENCES
Effective consequences for teenagers!
If you’re having trouble giving effective consequences to your teen,
know that you are not alone. Many parents tell me that nothing seems to
work, and that coming up with the right thing for their child can seem
like an impossible task. If you’re the parent of an adolescent, you may
have grounded your child, taken away their video games, or suspended
their driving privileges for months on end. But as James Lehman says,
you can’t punish kids into acceptable behavior—it just doesn’t work that way.
Effective consequences are ones that are connected to the original behavior, and are both task- and time-specific.
"Connected to the original behavior” means that your consequence needs to be related to the behavior you want to see your child change or improve.
“Task specific” means that there is something your child needs to accomplish, or practice related to the original problem. This is a concrete behavior, like washing the dishes, meeting curfew, or not swearing.
“Time specific” means there is a specific amount of time in which he needs to demonstrate that behavior.
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Thursday, February 18, 2016
STAYING CONNECTED
I am pleased to share that I will be presenting
"Empowering the Parent: Staying Connected -
"Empowering the Parent: Staying Connected -
Let's build a toolbox of skills to support
your journey as you navigate the pre-teen and teen years"
at Minds in
Motion on Feb. 27
For details Click Here
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Wednesday, February 10, 2016
POPULAR?
Helping teens deal with the "popularity thing"
"The pressure to be a part of the "popular" crowd is not a new ordeal
confronting teens, but the advanced technology may make them especially
pronounced for teens today than during the "corded phone" days of their
parents.
With their parents' permission, some girls of the Summit Area YMCA swim team and Westover School in Middlebury, Connecticut opened up to "CBS This Morning" about the issues they're facing.
"I feel like a lot of girls feel pressured to look a certain way and act a certain one," said 18-year-old Sara.
"People judge a friendship on how long your Snapchat streak is," said 14-year-old Allie."
With their parents' permission, some girls of the Summit Area YMCA swim team and Westover School in Middlebury, Connecticut opened up to "CBS This Morning" about the issues they're facing.
"I feel like a lot of girls feel pressured to look a certain way and act a certain one," said 18-year-old Sara.
"People judge a friendship on how long your Snapchat streak is," said 14-year-old Allie."
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Wednesday, February 3, 2016
TODDLERS & TEENS
While this article leans toward humor - I have long believed that there
is a parallel between toddlers and teens. Both are working to
understand themselves and their environment separately from their
parents. Both struggle with vocabulary (toddlers understanding words
and teens understanding their emotions)
To read the article
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
ANTI-FRAGILE
Becoming Anti-Fragile.....
"How is it that some people come back from crushing defeats while others
simply give in? Why does adversity make some people and teams stronger
and render others ineffective?"
Shane Parrish, Farnam Street
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